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<div class="section1"><div class="Normal"><span style="" font-style:="" italic="">Not IQ or academic brilliance. Emotional Intelligence is the new mantra for success</span><br /><br />You could be terribly clever and still be a loser. How? Findings from success-related research at Yale indicates that Emotional Intelligence or EI makes up 80 per cent of what is going to determine your success in life.Only 20 per cent is dependent on your genes, education and IQ. Research done with Harvard MBAs over a 40-year span seems to validate this. It has been found that many Harvard MBAs ended up being failures both in their careers and on the personal front.<br /><br />Experts believe that by developing your EI, you can improve the quality of your life. What does EI mean? It means being intelligent about your own emotions and being able to sense the other person''s emotions and then having the intelligence to know where to go next in a direction which suits both. "That is why it is so important and makes such a difference in people''s lives," says leadership coach Dipankar Khanna.<br /><br />Psychotherapist Santa Kumar says most people are not even aware of their emotions but only their behaviour. They don''t get to the root cause of why they behave the way they do. "When one is sad, one tends to withdraw. Usually one does not identify the emotion. Every emotion brings with it bodily sensations as well. Such as low energy levels after a bout of crying. We let emotions control us. Often, we fall prey to patterned responses and behaviour which need not be sociable."<br /><br />Santa Kumar says that regular introspection is necessary and this is a life-long process. Emotions are needed even to develop teamwork among colleagues and for this you need to develop intimacy and heart-felt communication and empathy. Motivation too cannot happen without emotions. No wonder then emotions are so crucial to what we want in life."<br /><br />MBA student KA Kaveriamma who works in the training department of a software firm points out that many firms in India have been investing more time and money on stress management programmes, in recent times. "They have realised that there is a need to develop the soft skills of employees and are using tools like NLP, yoga and more. Maybe they don''t use the term ''emotional intelligence development'' but it all boils down to that."<br /><br />Consultant for IT firms and yoga practitioner Devasena Narayanan points out, "Guided meditation on a tape can calm the mind and emotions. It can teach you to look at situations more objectively without getting too emotionally involved or attached," she explains.<br /><span style="" font-style:="" italic="">sangeeta_cavale@indiatimes.com</span></div> </div>